Shyness is a condition observed in the individual who avoid mixing with others and remains introvert. Shyness is mainly caused by the lack of confidence and self-esteem. Shy individuals found it difficult to express their feelings and think negatively among themselves. Shy people face problems in approaching to the other people and to speak among the unfamiliar individuals. Shyness is a form of excessive self-focus, a preoccupation with one's thoughts, feelings and physical reactions. Shyness can mean feeling uncomfortable, self-conscious, nervous, bashful, timid, or insecure. People who feel shy sometimes notice physical sensations like blushing or feeling speechless, shaky, or breathless. Shyness affects the social life of the person considerably, but in addition to that it adversely affects the sexual life of an individual. About 25% individuals in the United States are found to be shy and are affected by their shyness.
Shyness is found to be genetically caused in some of individuals. In this case the parents of the child are found to be very shy. Another main cause of Shyness is found to be the negative feeling and inability to talk to other people. Some individuals are shy from their childhood and some get shy as they get young. Sexual performance of the individual who is shy is found to be very low. Shyness is main cause of the unsatisfactory sex life among many couples. Shyness makes both the partners away from each other and both the partners don’t share with each other about their needs in the sex. Shyness creates a barrier of silence between both the partners that creates a distance between both the partners and make them away from each other. Shy men and women are found to be introvert and don’t share there feeling with their partner. This creates a problem in the relationship. Finally the relationship ends with the bad note.
To enjoy sex life to its fullest, it is very necessary for both the partners to avoid the shyness. Men are found to be shy during the sexual encounter when they have no experience of sexual intercourse, if he is a person who rarely goes out socially with women more than just friends, if he is a person who desperately wishes to have a relationship with a woman but does not have one because of shyness, or he is a person who is in no way a homosexual or bisexual. But, only 5% men are found to be shy during the sexual intercourse or in any sexual relationship. The problem of shyness is found to be more among the women. Around 25% of the women are found to be shy during the sexual intercourse or in any sexual relationship. Women are usually shy to show off everything to their partner and so feel shy about it. Women sometimes are also feared of intercourse if it is there first time of intercourse. Thus, these all feelings lead to the shyness among women
Shyness causes fear, social distance, misunderstandings, and deficits of communication among the couples and this leads to the unsatisfactory sex. Shyness can be more troubling for men because the traditional male role requires assertive and competitive behavior. Although our culture might take it easier on women who are shy, we don’t necessarily want it to. Like people who have a specific social anxiety, shy people can be very anxious in informal social situations and also in the bed with their partner. Shyness turns down another partner and leads to the problems in the sex. Shy women are as likely or even more likely due to their shyness feel shy to date, to marry, and to have children. Even the men who are shy are always found to marry late.
Shyness is similar like any mental disorder, and can be tackled by using simple techniques. The first step towards avoiding the shyness is to think positive about ourselves. The next step is to mix with the people and to share your point of view with them. Then learn to face your fears and try to overcome them. Once you overcome the shyness, you will see tremendous change in your social as well as sexual life. Thus, learn to tackle shyness for the good sex.